1000 HRS JUNE 6TH 2007

There is an old saying,

women marry

hoping that their men

will change,

men marry

hoping that their women

will never change.

This is so fucked up.

People always change,

and almost always

for the worse.

Change for the better

goes against

human nature.

For such a paradigm shift

to occur,

it normally happens

under the duress

of a major traumatic event,

like divorce

or major illness

or death in the family.

Don't ever marry

a potential to change

for the better.

If you don't like

a person's spirituality,

or character

or personal hygiene

or financial networth,

don't even hope

for the better

after marriage,

it usually

gets only worse.

People change,

I like to believe

that when you love someone,

you love through changes

that invariably occur

through the years,

for better or worse.

It is tragic,

in this day and age,

when married couples

need a dual income

to sustain family expenses,

people start excelling

in their careers,

start meeting

more interesting people,

start feeling confident

and sure about

themselves,

they begin to think

they're too good

for their partners.

They say

they outgrew

their partners.

I'd say

they merely

compared

their partners

with others.

And they leave their marriages

with the clear conscience

that they did not betray

or were unfaithful.

I really don't see

the difference

between leaving your partner

for someone else

or leaving your partner

with the intention

to find someone else.

Abandonment

by itself

is a betrayal

of trust.