1300 hrs July 11th 2004

Had drinks last night

with Ms M and Ms D

both single mothers.

First met them over a year ago

at the Catholic's Beginning Experience.

They were soul sisters

faced with the stark realities

of bringing up sons

entirely on their own.

Today, both are

happily attached

to their respective

boyfriends.

Both complained to me

how each have drifted

from each other.

I am saddened

by how friendship

have a natural tendency

to drift apart.

It does not even take

a quarrel

much less

a fight

for friendship

to meander aimlessly

away.

Circumstances change

people change

and the cost

is usually

the relationship

between 2 people.

Even within a marriage,

when 2 people face

the same circumstance,

the inexorable forces

of nature

cause people to change.

My ex-wife is

nothing like the

sweet 19 year old I met

and fell in love with

in 1989.

By the same token,

I'm sure I'm not

the same guy

she fell in love with

in 1989.

I would like to think

that when you love someone

you love her

through changes.

But nobody

loves

a mutation.

People change

and

usually for the worse.

Which therefore means

for 2 people

to remain together

through time,

they not only

have to change

in the same direction

but also

at the same pace.

That seems

like a bet

on a one to million

odds.