2330 hrs July 12th 2004

Just had dinner with Ms D

woman of real substance.

In her relationship

with Mr R,

just enjoying

each precious moment,

for tomorrow

may never come.

Coming from a widow,

who had her life

wrenched from her

in such tragic circumstances.

I can see

her wisdom.

Why do we quarrel?

Why do we fight?

What if we die

tomorrow?

Do we want

our last memories

of our love ones,

to be that of

a bitter fight?

In most cases,

people fight

not to resolve

issues at hand,

but to express

their anger

and

to hit back.

If we bury

our differences

swallow

our pride,

most fights

are so

unnecessary.

Because we

don't choose

the day

we die.

But we can choose

to live our lives

happily.

We cannot control

the actions

of others,

but we can control

our own

reactions.

For the multitude

of things,

we love

our partners for,

why must that

one single issue

take such

prominence?

Is it that important

to win that fight?

Do we want our

last words

to our love ones

be that of

ugliness?

Lesson in Life,

is to live,

like we will die

tomorrow.

But, as a man

I must plan,

like we will live

forever.

More so,

as a man,

sometimes we cannot

avoid fights.

But it is indeed

our duty

to weather the storm

and guide the ship

to safe waters.

In doing so,

in an arguement,

take the hits

from a woman,

but be in control,

manage the process

and lead

the confrontation,

to an amicable

solution.

Come on,

a man can take

a beating anytime,

including

verbal ones.