1230 hrs July 31st 2004

Felt like launching

into yet another one

of my anti-love musings.

I'm beginning to think,

that love

is just not meant

to be

forever.

At most,

about a dozen years.

We've been biologically

hardwired

to fall in love

when we are young.

Because procreation

is a biological instinct.

Emotions,

in the form of

love,

is a necessity

for procreation.

Because

copulation

minus emotions

that led to

procreation,

will not provide

the offspring

with sufficient

attention.

But when a child

is about 11 or 12,

his biological instincts,

is to leave the family.

Its only today's social

and economic barriers

that caused him

to stay.

At about that time,

the love between

a couple

fades away,

if not

earlier.

When I see

a middle aged man,

attempting to court

his wife

all over again,

I usually know

what happened.

His wife was being

pursued

by another

suitor.

He maybe

all lovedovey

but

I see

bitterness

at the corners

of his mouth.

He is merely trying

to win a bit

of his

self-esteem back.

My prognosis is

it won't last long.

Once the victory is won,

there is nothing left,

once again.

The wife will bask

in the glory

of an attentive husband

for a while,

just a while.

Women like

a little bit of

competition,

but men like

to be on

auto-pilot

with their women.

And women

who remained with

their husbands,

till old age,

usually its because

for the lack

of better options.

Better options are

mostly economic.

When the love is gone,

she will ponder

what would her life

have been

if she chose

the other suitor

instead.

But she failed to realise,

that the tragedy is

the life experience

may be different,

but the end result

will be the same,

ie a loveless marriage.

It follows that

marriage without procreation,

is therefore

unnatural.

Because love

is transcient

and fleeting.

But shared parenthood

remains,

with or without

romantic love.