2300 hrs March 12th 2005

One of the rare weekends

I spend in Singapore.

Got up with personal errands,

fixed the car centrol locking,

and did housework.

Which reminded me of an article

in Today paper I read

a certain tabloid journalist

called Ms Teo,

wrote at length about

how domestic responsibilities

(read household chores and child caring)

still falls primary on women,

in Singapore.

She went on to reveal

that this has kept her from

considering motherhood.

In a biting comment,

"If you are expecting men

to shoulder more than they are

traditionally conditioned to,

GET REAL"

I really don't know about Ms Teo

or her husband.

I do know that I do virtually ALL

the housework at home.

I simply deplore messiness,

so I do ALL the cleaning,

moping, picking up, household repairs.

I get an incredible sense

of satisfaction,

when I do housework.

Because accomplisment is immediate

and visibly tangible.

Besides, I get an incredible hardon,

when Ms X breaks into a smile,

when she comes home from flight,

and the house is all made up,

like a hotel room.

Ms X does laundry of

the delicates.

I get my balls chopped off

if I damage her clothes.

Mum does the ironing.

The only woman I know that cooks better

or does housework better

than me,

is Mum.

So what the hell is Ms Teo

ranting about?

Worse, she made it seem,

like its a Singaporean men

problem.

Why the hell didn't she marry

another race?

All Singaporean men I know

are typically so nice and accomodating

to their westernised wives,

they would compromise.

In fact, any man who truly loves

his wife,

would compromise

on something

as trivial

as housework.

So instead of blaming

the Singaporean man or husband,

for her refusal to be a mother,

she should take responsibility,

that she fucked up

as a woman

and a wife.

Either she made the wrong choice

of man to be her husband,

or she is so unlovable

as a wife,

that the husband

would not even consider

helping out at home.

If she could write about

her marital problems

in a national newspaper,

I'm sure she must have

communicated it to her husband

more than once.

Obviously, he doesn't give

a fuck

about how she feels.

From the evidence of things,

I don't really blame him.