1610 hrs May 17th 2006

They always said,

breaking up

is hard to do.

I dunno,

I've been through it

so many times,

its easier

than easy.

For a start,

have a clean break.

A happy closure,

celebrate

a new life.

No phonecalls

No emails

No SMS

You can care

or even have platonic love

for your ex

but from a distance

please.

Give him/her,

give yourself

a chance

to recover.

I used to think

that being friends

with your ex

is a great idea.

Afterall, who knows you better

than someone who shared

the same bed with you

for years?

I still think so,

but there needs

to be,

a long period

of absolutely

no contact.

Personally,

I reckon

about 2-3 years.

I do emphatise

that letting go

of those shared history

those joys and tears

and assigning it to

no more than

useless memories

can be quite

difficult

to let go totally.

But trust me,

being friends

with someone

whom you just broken off

is difficult,

maybe impossible even.

When relationships go

from romantic

to platonic,

expectations

of each other

takes time

to change.

Feelings get hurt

egos get bruised

People move on,

but rarely

at the same pace.

There is a tendency

to compare

to compete even.

The guy I'm seeing

is richer than you,

the girl I'm seeing

has bigger tits etc etc etc

Don't get me wrong,

I don't believe in

being bitter

towards your ex.

On the contrary,

I believe

one should love

the ex,

but in a different way.

Years from now,

we can be best friends,

but certainly

not now.

All of the above applies

but with one exception,

when kids

are involved.

Because when kids

are involved,

everything you guys do

have to take their interests

first before yours.

They are above

all your priorities,

they are above

all your feelings,

all your ego.