Van-Dylan
my dearest son.
You're gonna turn 4
next week.
I doubt very much
I can be part
of your birthday celebrations.
Your Mum did not even
send you to school today,
I imagine she could not wake up
after all night sessions
on Facebook.
Chances of me
guiding you through
your growing up years
are extremely bleak.
The Woman's Charter laws in Singapore
will see to it
that we never live together again.
And I know your Mum too well,
to know that
she will do everything she can
to alienate you
against me.
So in the absence
of better alternatives,
I will just leave parts of me
around in blogs
So one day,
you can get to know
the Daddy that
truly loves you,
more than anything else
in the world.
But in order
to keep loving you
albeit from
afar,
I have to stay sane
and hence
away from Mum and you.
You know,
since a very young age,
I observed
that you have a very keen sense
of justice
of right and wrong
of crime and punishment.
And you take it upon
your little self
to judge
and carry out punishments.
I can't think
of a better career
for your inclination
than a public prosecutor.
I imagine you
to be a real mean
hard ass
public prosecutor
that strikes fear
into the hearts of
criminals
and their lawyers.
I've always felt,
the problem
with this world is
too many criminals
and smart well paid lawyers
but too little
good public prosecutors.
I can imagine you
really enjoying
your work,
and nail
the bad guys.
The only way,
I could get you
to eat your pork
is to tell you
its a naughty spinosaurus
and you will devour it
as a way
of punishment.
As you grow up
and find your feet
Remember,
when you think of a career
DO WHAT YOU LOVE.
Because it is human nature
to love what you are good at.
So do what you love
what you are good at.
Because it follows
that if you are good at something
there will be commercial value
in it.
So identify
what you are good at,
and pursue it
like your divine calling
and be among the best
in your chosen field
Try to avoid
crowded fields
even if you are
the best
in the crowded field,
the law of lowest common denominator
will drag your value down.
Try to find a niche
and be the best
in it.
You do not have to
conform with the rest.
If your convictions are
that the crowd is wrong,
then be brave
and be contrarian.
But do it within
the confines of the law.
You must respect authority
and accept the power structure
in our society.
If you have to bring down
unjust, corrupt and incompetent
authorities,
do it intelligently
without being a martyr.
Be humble
because with humility
you will realise
EVERYONE you meet
in your life
is your teacher.
There is so much to learn
so much to absorb
in this world.
In everything you do
devote time and energy
to it.
Some people take 2 hours
to complete a module,
you might need 4 hours.
Then you put in 8 hours.
Its all about
time management
and sacrifices.
Most entertainment
are a waste of time,
either you learn something new
or you have a good laugh,
otherwise its a waste of time.
And time is a precious commodity
because once you lost an hour
of your time,
its gone forever.
Money lost can be made back,
Time lost is gone forever.
Guess I'll stop for now,
Love you forever
my dear son.
