1720 hrs October 19th 2005

Seems like so many

around me

are undergoing

some kind

of relationship

breakdown.

So is

yours sincerely.

Might as well write down

some thoughts,

perhaps it serves

to remind myself too.

Feeling rejected?

Hurt?

Miserable?

Lonely?

Can't get through the day

without your now ex?

Step One,

Stop seeing her altogether.

If she needs to come home

to collect something,

don't be home.

Step Two,

Have absolutely

no contact.

No SMS,

No phone calls,

No emails.

How is she?

I don't know

don't want to know

and

don't care.

Step Three,

don't open

a spoilt refrigerator.

You won't have food

in it,

and the air stinks,

so don't ever consider

a reconcilation,

its a broken refrigerator,

better to get

a new one.

Step Four,

stop talking about her.

She is a ghost

in your life.

Life is meant

for the living,

not the dead.

Step Five,

by all means,

introspect

on the failed

relationship.

But stop beating

yourself up.

Learn the lessons

from the failure

and look to apply

lessons learnt.

Step Six,

Look forward,

not backwards.

You can't drive a car forward,

if you keep staring

at the rear view mirror.

Likewise,

think of all the opportunities

abound,

imagine all the fun

you will have

without being accountable

to her.

Step Seven,

pamper yourself,

buy new clothes,

have a makeover,

go to the gym,

make yourself

feel good looking.

Step Eight,

Yes, flirt

like their is no tomorrow.

Who cares?

You are not hurting

anyone.

Step Nine,

don't dive straight in

to another relationship.

Take your time